I don’t have any great words of wisdom to pass along to the readers this week and since my latest book, Storm Shadows, was just released a couple of weeks ago I’m pretty much promoted out. Not having a clue what to write about, I rummaged through the “Possible Posts” file on my blog and chose a few of the topics I’d been meaning to write about for a long time.
Today’s topic has to do with why I write what I write—or really, why I don’t write in a certain genre anymore. The first book I ever sold was written as a sensual romantic suspense. Since I’m something of an introvert when the time came to actually try for publication, I decided to submit only to e-publishers. An e-book, I thought, was the perfect path for a loner like me who hates to go out and meet people face to face. They offer an author the opportunity to promote her work from the security of her own home, hidden behind the veil of cyber-space. It sounded like a perfect fit.
The problem came when I started researching e-publishers; most of them wanted erotic romances or erotica. My book was sensual and didn’t qualify but I didn’t let that stop me, I submitted it to five e-book publishers. Surprisingly, I received offers from two publishers but there was a catch; they both wanted me to add more sex scenes and in those scenes I needed to use more explicit language to make the book more erotic. I figured why not and signed with one of them.
I was going to be published! Needless to say I was ecstatic…until my book came up for editing. She was ready cheapest online cialis to take our relationship to the next level. This implies levitra 10 mg that the Kamagra jelly can provide you with a baby. This occur where arteries carrying blood to genital organ is a common treatment prescribed to cure male impotence in men. buy cialis levitra But you should consult your physician before getting involved in the cheap cialis routine intake. I had a wonderful editor, but I felt very uncomfortable doing what the publisher wanted me to do. It wasn’t the sex scenes or even the amount of sex; it was the “words” I had to use to convey that “erotic” feel.
Since then, I’ve seen more than a few discussions on-line about what makes an erotic novel…well, erotic. A lot of conclusions are reached, some I agree with, some I don’t, but based on my one-time experience with writing erotic romance, I’ll tell you what it boils down to for me. It’s not the number of sex scenes or even whether the sex takes a front-seat to the romance in the book, it’s the words used during those sex scenes that makes the difference.
Now that I write mainly sensual romance, I tend to stay away from those words. Like the late, great George Carlin and his Seven Dirty Words You Can Never Say on Television, I have a list of words that I’ll never use in a love scene.
No, I’m not going to list them here but if you’ve heard Mr. Carlin’s list, quite a few of his words show up on my list too. And I’m not saying I won’t use the words elsewhere in the story. After all, quite a few of them work great for insults or exclamations or even to express sarcasm or disgust or convey some other feeling, but I’m just not comfortable using them in love scenes.
If you’re an author, you’re often told to “write what you know.” That’s good advice, but I also believe a writer should “write within her personal comfort zone.” And in my case, that means leaving out those particular words or phrases that, for me, take the romance out of a love scene.
There’s another old saying that comes to mind when I think about this; once is never enough but for me, in this case, once was more than enough.
I’m happy you’ve found what works for you and what genre you are comfortable with. Keep the books coming.
Great blog! I remember writing my first sex scene – my face was red as a beet the entire time. Whew! Since then, I’ve toned it down somewhat but can’t stay away from them entirely.
Good for you, Caity-Did, I’m proud of you for sticking by your morals. I read Snow Shadows and it was a bit erotic but it passed my approval and I am not big on sex scenes at all.
I know you’re a Christian girl and have morals that won’t allow you to compromise. I loved Snow Shadows and even when skippiing by the “sex scenes” I got the feel of their HUGE feelings for each other.
I just got Storm Shadows in mail yesterday and can’t wait to read it. Thank you so very much…
I love this blog; so-ooo from your heart. I get a kick out of you being shy. Your charming personality comes across in other blogs and articles I’ve read, so no one would ever know you are a bit shy.
Hugs and best luck always,
Betty Dravis
P.S. I even ran some of my work past my Pastor if I thought it was too gory, especially what my hard-boiled (but lovable)detective in my murder scenes said when viewing some of the more grisly corpses. Pastor laughed at me, saying, “That’s not YOU saying that, Betty. It’s your character.” So-ooo I learned from that… LOL
Thanks, robynl, I’m glad I found what works for me too!
Caitlyn
Hey Christy! Like you, I can’t stay away from them entirely but thank goodness whenever I cross that line, I have the option to “tone it down,” as you say!
Thanks for commenting!
Caitlyn
Hi Betty-kins,
I can’t remember where I read it or who said it but I once saw a quote that said an author should write as if all their friends and family are dead. I get what the person was saying but it was a bit gruesome for me. I think your pastor has it right and I love the quote from him–much better than imagining all my loved ones are gone!
Thanks for commenting!
Caity-did
Betty,
Forgot to say you’re welcome and I hope you like Storm!
Caitlyn
Great post Caitlyn, I’m happy you were able to get published with not too much stretch from your comfort zone. Your stories are your babies and should be what you want them to be.
Dena,
You said, “Your stories are your babies and should be what you want them to be.” Exactly! What’s the point of writing if you have to follow someone else’s guidelines? Takes all the fun out of it, if you ask me.
Thanks for commenting!
Caitlyn